I listen very well, so I am good there, but I dont know what to ask people to engage them in conversation. I dont know how to be myself sometimes and I dont know what I want to get out of a conversation most of the time either. Any ideas?
I also find it hard to express my feelings much less identifying my own thoughts and feelings.
first try to write a sort of diary in which you describe what your needs are and what you can offer. For that try to describe your strong and weak points. Think about the strong points you have when you start a conversation. Don't be afraid to start stalk about the weather.
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Do you have any parents or siblings are really old friends that you can communicate with properly? The way to getting along with people is to ask many, many questions, but hopefully things that aren't too personal for fear of upsetting anybody… hang around people that are nice, or very outgoing, those that love to talk or have alot of tolerance for your weirdness. The more you spend in *people situations* the better you will become. Always do to people whatever you want done to yourself, think about how you want to be approached and what you'd like to talk about, and surely there will be someone else, (or someones) that have the exact same thing. If you have trouble expressing your feelings and identifying them; also your thoughts, it makes me wonder if you really know who you are… if you have an exact picture of yourself, and what you are, not just what you want to be, it shouldn't be too hard to find somebody… or atleast someone that can relate. Another good idea is to watch TV. Alot of people are quite shallow and probably 70% of Americans know everything about celebrities, (especially when it comes to pop culture,) and what it new and old and in style… Television, Movies, [but not so much books or video games really] all give you a good idea of people, they way they behave, and their interests. Believe me, I've had this problem for a long time, and I've tried desperately to find some type of advise or book that I can follow, and everyone's methods are different, but really there isn't any. Communication with your species is a natural and excepted thing, most people don't have problems so I don't know if your gonna be able to /find/ anything…
Well, hope that helped! Good luck ^_^
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first try to write a sort of diary in which you describe what your needs are and what you can offer. For that try to describe your strong and weak points. Think about the strong points you have when you start a conversation. Don't be afraid to start stalk about the weather.
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my source is Walt Whitman: Leaves of grass