my new potential BF doesnt say much and we have a hard time keeping a convo going. In person, its not so bad, but on the phone we have NOTHING to say.
does this mean he will get bored sooner or later and dump me?
He didnt like the fact that I told him I Get Bored Easily…Hmmm could that be because He KNOWS hes boring?!
Insight from smart people, please!!
It’s hard for us men to talk when the women keep going yappida yappida yappida. They sound like an old car, nagnagnagnag bitchbitchbitchbitch. How the hell does a man get to talk with all that going on?
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So.. if you have nothing to talk about, why are you still in the relationship? Smart people know when to stop beating a dead horse.
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Communication is important. Listening to a girlfriend ramble on about her day for hours on end is boring.
Communication and talking aren’t one in the same.
Also us men hate being asked, what are you thinking about?
Me- Ninjas.
Her- No what are you really thinking about, don’t be silly.
Me- Ninjas.
Her- Well if you aren’t being serious, I don’t know why I’m bothering.
Me- I am being serious, we are watching a history channel thing about ninja, I thinking about ninjas.
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communication is important to guys? no, communication is important to women. If men had their ways they would never talk about their feelings.
He’s just not the kind of guy that likes phone conversations. Accept him the way he is or…..move on to another guy more compatible with you.
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Perhaps he sees no need to fill every moment with inconsequential chatter.I know people who never shut up but so so little of importance that everyone basically ignores them.Constantly talking does mean you are communicating. If I have something important to say,I do but I am a quiet person.At work,when I talk,people listen because the information that I impart is important and they know this. Others who talk are often ignored.
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Because men are more physical, meaning they SHOW you they love you, instead of blabbing about it. For example, my husband just changed my windshield wipers in my car. He wants me to be safe. He is taking care of me.
Sounds simple, but it is the truth, men are simple.
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All I understand now, from what you wrote of course, is: he isn’t so potential after all !
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It’s hard for us men to talk when the women keep going yappida yappida yappida. They sound like an old car, nagnagnagnag bitchbitchbitchbitch. How the hell does a man get to talk with all that going on?
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You get out of a relationship what both people are willing to put into it ! The closer you work together the more the meaning. A relationship with meaning starts with love. But there is much more that comes along with it !
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Because comm with airheads is a waste of time.
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It is you who is boring, I’m sorry to say.
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Guys suck at talking (sorry guys). As long as he takes communication seriously when it’s necessary, you’ll be okay
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Save the chit chat for your lady friends. Seriously.
I do not talk much in my marriage because I am always wrong or my words are picked apart to state anything other than what I mean. I also do not chatter much even when I do feel comfortable talking. Some people are talkers and others are not. My husband for instance can take an hour to tell a 5 min. story…. drives me insane and talks non stop each and every day. If this bothers you that he does not have much to say maybe you need to find another potential boyfriend. He cannot change who he is. Good luck.
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Guys don’t talk much because we know that actions speaks louder than words. Also we don’t talk much because we do more listening than talking.
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So you guys aren’t even together yet (i.e. potential BF) and you are already worried about breaking up?!?! Slow down!!! Or don’t even start!!
If you have good conversations in person, then what is the problem? Some people do better face to face than on a phone, and vice versa. Not everyone can be a chatterbox 24/7.
He didn’t like the fact that you told him you get bored easily because to him that sounds like YOU ARE THE ONE WHO WILL GET BORED AND DUMP HIM! It doesn’t take a genius to figure that one out.
(you somehow managed to twist that one around and make it all about you, and how "he will bet bored and dump you later")
Like they say, "youth is wasted on the wrong people"!!!!
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Duh, find someone more interesting and outgoing.
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He might just be the shy, quiet type. He’ll get bored if you are condescending. Except him the way he is. Try to keep the conversation going. It is ok to just not talk.
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OK. 1). this place is for married folks. Please be nice, as most of us have to wait to put our kids to bed to talk about our real problems. Please understand that this is not a real problem from an adults’ perspective.
2). The phone sucks, and all straight men hate it.
3). See number 2.
4). You’re rude on the phone. The fact that you’ve inferentially insulted him and he noticed means that he’s got some substance.
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