Love is in the air when it comes to programming on television, articles in the magazines that we read, and the radio shows that we listen to; it seems that everywhere we turn talk is focused on ill-fated couples and the secrets to make a relationship last. But when it comes to the true ideals on which happy unions are based, there is some relationship advice that bears following.
First and foremost, as any happy couple will tell you, communication is the key to success in a relationship. That is why – as is so often the case – relationship advice will focus on the best ways to communicate with each other. So many times, couples come into a relationship with a whole set of baggage brought from their upbringing as children or from previous relationships. What defines communication for one partner may not even scratch the surface for another. Many couples will often turn to professional counseling in order to follow this relationship advice; learning how to redefine communication and meet each other’s needs so that each person feels respected and heard.
As trust is also such an essential ingredient in happy partnerships, you will often hear relationship advice focused on blazing new trails of trust in your relationship. Even if there has been no infidelity in your own relationship, some partners will bring past betrayals with them into this new environment. Or perhaps, a lack of trust has more to do with a partner’s own insecurity than the trustworthiness of their partner. In any case, a lack of trust almost always spells disaster to a relationship. It is essential, therefore, to follow this relationship advice to find mutual trust and respect in your partnership – such respect and trust will invariably pay off in security and happiness.
In terms of relationship advice, experts also agree that time spent with each other equates to unbreakable bonds of friendship. And therein lays the secret to a great relationship – friendship. Physical intimacy is great and an important component in any relationship but without friendship – deep and abiding friendship – the relationship will most likely not survive. Spend time together – plenty of quality alone time – and get to know each other over and over again; that is the greatest relationship advice that you will ever receive.
Relationship advice can be found on practically every corner. But what truly matters – and what will translate to success and happiness in your own relationship – are the things that are important to you as individuals and as a couple.
Michelle Bery
http://www.articlesbase.com/relationships-articles/follow-this-relationship-advice-to-find-happiness-together-138052.html
Will I ever find happiness? Advice please?
Hi all
Bit of a long story but I really need help at the moment. Bit of background first. I am a 36 year old man and I am single again! My whole history with relationships seems to be that I want the wrong women. This is either women that are difficult or women that I think are too good for me in terms of looks etc and that I feel lucky to be with them. Whenever there has been a relationship with someone kind and caring and someone who wants to do stuff for me I become less interested. I really can’t explain why it happens.
My gilfriend left me four weeks ago and I am still devastated. I have been trying to keep busy and I have avoided calling or texting her except to arrange for her to get her stuff. The way I have been feeling since she left is the worst I have ever felt. The pain is eating me up.
What makes it terrible is that we both work together and this is obviously incredibly difficult. Some of the time I am quite optimistic about the future but mostly I am having negative thoughts such as;
What if she is with someone else? (the thought rips my heart apart)
Will I ever meet someone or will I end up alone?
At 36 will I ever meet someone to settle down with and have a family?
How can I improve my self esteem and self worth because unless I like myself nobody will like me. Although I am aware that I have a lot to offer, I have a good job, my own house etc. I still feel that I have missed my chance for happiness and the way that I saw my life going hasn’t happened.
I have read lots of advice on the internet and I have tried to follow it. I have got rid of stuff that reminds me of her. I have started a hobby, something I have put off for years, I am spending time with close friends and family and I realise that with time it will get easier but that doesn’t help me now!
I know that this will make me sound soft but I am constantly upset and I feel like I have nothing to look forward to.
How long will it take for the pain to go away?
The reason my girlfriend left me is that she is no longer attracted to me. I have really low self esteem and I suppose I am quite needy and this reason has made the split and my negative feeling even worse. She is 26 so there was a big difference in our ages. Also she had split up with me twice before and we have got back together. I have always felt that I loved her more than she loved me.
Does anyone have any tips on what will help? I really appreciate all the advice you can give.
At the moment I am just existing. In the past I have been optimistic but at the moment nothing seems to be able to break me away from this downward spiral!
Thanks in advance
(ADULTS ONLY PLEASE)
i no its says adults only but one pieace of advise the right one will come
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" The pain is eating me up. " First off, yes im an adult, secondly, i know you are sick of hearing this phrase but time DOES heal all wounds, your self-esteem and worth took a beating and i understand this.
What have you got to be optimistic about…well you have a good job ( a plus in womens books) your own home ( another plus) and you are mature and ready for commitment ( a big plus ) She is 26 and hence immature, she probably reckons she can run around dating like as if she was 19 again or some such nonsense.
My only advice is that we have all been there but you have a head-start on most of us ( the pluses i mentioned ) When the going gets tough, the tough get going. All the best and dont let the bastar*ds get you down
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Im a real man`s man
i know u say only adults only. but Im eighteen so ya. i know some stuff aout not having good self esteem cause i used to be the same way. I had anger issues from girls cause I been hurt alot from them. they have always hurt me but now ever since I got a girlfriend, im like really happy and i cant explain it. anyways your self value shouldnt be for women, it should be about how you view yourself and your personality and all that stuff that makes you, you. if u know wat i mean. keep your head up bro.
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i am so sorry about the situation u are in right now.well i donn kno wether i am an udult or not but im 24it seems you have tried all the best u can to get rid of this pain you are feeling but it does not really help you 4get.i think you are a nice guy wnd you do can have hich ever women you want in life.besides 36 is not 2 old.you will find someone,someone that was meant for you.you MUST not tolerate such thoughts like _wat if shes with another man-coz that will upset you even more.but u have to kno also that if she was 4 u she will come bac.dont u eva 4ce her-u neva kno wat is in store for you.maybe there is a betta beauty waiting 4 you somewhere.all im trying to say is that u should juss live your life ,4get the past,avoid paining thoughts and hang out with even more people ,women mostly .i hope this will help you-
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"What makes it terrible is that we both work together and this is obviously incredibly difficult."
I can imagine. Maybe time for a new job? This would give you a fresh start, new people, prospects etc.
"What if she is with someone else? (the thought rips my heart apart)"
You have to face up to it that this will happen sooner or later (if it isn’t already). It’s NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS! She’s not your girlfriend anymore so WHY do you care? The answer is you don’t, ‘if you love someone, let them go. If they never come back it was never meant to be’ goes the saying and it’s true. Much of your post shows you are still hankering after her and until you sort that out you’ll never move on. Nobody’s saying you should forget her, just stop thinking about her all the time.
"Will I ever meet someone or will I end up alone?"
You’re 36 (still young), with your own job, able to string whole sentences together without any spelling mistakes, you’ve obviously quite bright, damn, this puts you in about the top 5% of males out there!
"At 36 will I ever meet someone to settle down with and have a family?"
You can chase after younger women (and might get lucky) or you can go for someone nearer your own age. Chances are that many women in their mid-thirties will already have kids, so this is the situation you’ll have to face up to. Get yourself on a reputable dating site and see what’s about.
Re. self confidence: It maybe that you need to try something REALLY dramatic to increase your self-confidence, perhaps some crazy extreme sport or something.
"Do something everyday that scares you" is a brilliant piece of advice and that "scare" can be anything from asking a good-looking woman for the time, speaking in public or bungy jumping!
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Been there, done that and so have all my friends.